Jeff Chan

Leave Me Alone

Yesterday, I came across a digg story titled “Don’t Bug the Person Who Wants To Be Alone.” The article was a great read. I could totally relate to it. The comments by other digg users are also very good.

Instead of just repeating, I’m just going to quote a few of the comments and comment on it.

I’m sure most Diggers like a little solitude. I certainly do. If I don’t offset my being the center of the universe with getting away from everyone and being on my own for a bit, then I go insane.

This comment basically sums it for me. I like to be alone, and sometimes I need to be alone.

According to the article people with introverted personalities still have friends and have a life, just not the life that an extroverted person would find fulfilling. Loners who keep to themselves are not necessarily lonely, but feel that the time spent alone is more productive and stimulating than socializing with the bulk of society.

This is so true. Sometimes when I hang out with people, all everyone else does is just talk about meaningless things.

Being “alone” is not the same as “being lonely”.

This quote made my day. I want a T-shirt that says that.

Well I’m a solitary guy and I never felt bad about it and I never felt the need to socialize. When I was younger I felt a little guilty about it because everybody was telling me that enjoying things by myself was not normal, I only had one or two friends at any time in my life. It’s not like I’m a reject either, I get along great with people. I just don’t like most people.I’ll talk with my co-workers like anybody else, but it ends there. I had all kinds of less intelligent people (school councelors and such) trying to “help” me in life because THEY felt bad about MY being alone. It usually led to insults from me. I just don’t want to be bothered. I have a better time on my own than with other people, I see most people as an annoyance. It probably seems very egotistical, it is. In my eyes, I’m better than you.

The science of psychology is far from being exact. A lot of people have traits of character that would be considered “not normal” in psychology. But if you’re happy with your particular character traits and you’re not hurting anybody, well that’s it, fuck psychology. It can’t help you because you are not broken. Psychology will be of great help when you are unusually sad or depressed, when you are unusually distressed. But if your personnality is business as usual and you’re happy with it, then you’re fine. The fact that you are outside the norm doesn’t make you sick.

A very long one, but a very good one. However, this one sums everything up for me. At school, sometimes I just want to be alone, and I enjoy it.

I prefer being alone most of the time. But it is not that I dislike people. I hate talking for the sake of talking.

I hope some people here are lucky enough to have those one or two friends that you can hang out with and not say a word to them for hours. Those are the friends I could be social with all the time, the ones that don’t feel compelled to talk just for the sake of talking.

Silence is golden.

This one also nails it. I hate noise and I hate talking about nothing. It seems like in high school, it’s not normal if you don’t talk about anything even when there’s nothing to talk about.

There are many other comments that nailed it. You can definitely check them out. I don’t know about you guys, but these comments just writes out my story.